Sometimes, things get heated with my darling husband. Usually, this looks like me yelling and/or crying while he expresses an endearing combination of caring and bewilderment. Before I started meditating, our arguments would "end" with him feeling peaceful and ready to move on, and me wallowing in bed feeling teary and unsettled for the rest of the afternoon. "How can you just get over this and be cheerful right away?" I would ask. "We were just yelling at each other a few minutes ago. I'm not mad anymore, but I need to process and recover from this."
I thought I was a sensitive, delicate flower who needed time to emotionally heal after conflict. The truth is, I wasn't allowing myself to acknowledge the root of our arguments, which often stem from my own insecurities, so I couldn't move on with my day after the conflict had technically been "resolved." In the words of Brene Brown, I was operating from a place of shame, and meditating has helped me let go of that shame and be vulnerable in difficult moments.
Meditation is not a panacea, and it does not produce blissed-out hippies who float above the real world and its problems. Because I meditate, I do feel blissed out a lot of the time and my problems are more manageable, but I still battle inner demons and make poor choices. The difference is I feel things fully now and can move through them quickly. I am able to be vulnerable, admit what's really going on, and find the new now.
How does meditation facilitate this? Each time we meditate, we chip away at the "I suck" voice that tends to sneak up on us when we get quiet. When we sit and surrender to whatever our mind wants to think, we stop judging what comes up and eventually stop judging ourselves when we're not meditating (ie. in daily life). Before meditation, I would push away ugly thoughts by turning on the TV, eating when I wasn't hungry, or blaming others. Those things still happen sometimes, but now I'm able to catch them quickly, course-correct, and acknowledge the root of what I'm feeling so I can move on.
CONSIDER THIS: What unconscious habits do you employ to push away the "I suck" voice?What might it be like to feel difficult feelings without judgment, so you can move on to the new now?
I want to share a personal story with you about my path of finding Vedic Meditation.
I had been battling anxiety, depression, and insomnia for most of my life. When I started my career as a corporate attorney at a large New York law firm, the burden became unbearable. That's when I found Vedic Meditation and it made the most immediate and profoundly positive impact on my physical, mental, and emotional health.
A few years later, I decided to do something that could help the people in my life -- and that’s why I became a teacher of Vedic Meditation.
For most of us, the holiday season is a joy-filled time of year, yet it can also be very challenging. We are faced with high levels of demands and expectations as the days continue to grow shorter and colder, our schedules fill up with holiday parties, even trips to visit family, or a vacation somewhere warm to escape the cold of winter. The choice is often to "power through" and we end up missing a very special time of year being over-stressed. Vedic Meditation gives us a way to find balance, inner peace and a profoundly deep level of rest that allows us to enjoy the holiday season and begin the new year grounded, with clarity and grace.
Many of us view the new year as a clean slate, a time to re-prioritize our choices and dedicate ourselves to improving our lives and our relationships with our best intentions at hand.
The challenge is not in the choosing itself--for the most part, we know what we should be doing. Spending time with family and friends, exercising regularly, eating healthy nutritious food, finding time to relax, being patient, kind and compassionate to others. The list goes on. The problem we face is that regardless of our intention, we are destined behave and act according to the baseline level of stress that we've accumulated in our minds and bodies...
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