Truth time: Fear Of Missing Out does not have to be a thing. Before meditation, I was an introvert who joked about about my extreme homebody tendencies while secretly feeling like it wasn't funny at all. When social plans arose, I always preferred to stay home and recharge my batteries and often used my "draining teaching job" as an excuse. But while a part of me was thrilled to post up on the couch, I also felt guilty and self-critical for not wanting to be social. Why can't I be a normal, social human being? I'd ask myself. What if everyone out in the world is becoming BFFs without me? I truly believed that I sucked at having fun and no one liked me because of it. I didn't want to engage socially because I felt like a failure at it.
After I started meditating and my body began to shed layers of stress and self-loathing, I learned the following lessons:
1. My relationships will grow if I tend to them regularly and genuinely love them. Just like plants. No matter what, no fear needed.
2. My true nature is bliss (aka happiness, rainbows, and that floating-on-air feeling that we chase with psychoactive drugs), and within me lies an innate capability to be and have fun. I do not, in fact, suck at having fun. When I rid my body of stress by meditating twice a day, I can access that bliss more easily. I have more positive (dare I say fun?) experiences when I work and socialize with others. Best of all, I can keep up with my friends (and my hip-shaking husband) on the dance floor now, and it used to be a struggle just to uncross my arms!
3. I'll never feel FOMO if I trust my intuition. Meditating helps me hear my intuition, that place in my gut or heart that speaks before my brain has a chance to deliberate or justify. When I do this, I make choices with ease. I simply ask, "Does this feel charming to me or not?" and I listen to what immediately comes up. If my heart says yes, I go for it. If my heart says no, and my brain begins searching for reasons why I SHOULD do this thing (everyone else is doing it, my friends will have fun without me, I don't want to look rude), I opt out. In the words of Danielle Laporte, your feelings are the sign you've been looking for. Even if a situation demands that you consider more than just your feelings, consider them all the same. When you opt out of something that doesn't feel good (despite what your brain, your friends, or your mom say), FOMO stays away because you'll end up doing something that feels charming to you instead.
So what does this all mean? Meditate regularly and observe as FOMO and your inner critic are replaced by a powerful intuition that makes decisions easy.
I want to share a personal story with you about my path of finding Vedic Meditation.
I had been battling anxiety, depression, and insomnia for most of my life. When I started my career as a corporate attorney at a large New York law firm, the burden became unbearable. That's when I found Vedic Meditation and it made the most immediate and profoundly positive impact on my physical, mental, and emotional health.
A few years later, I decided to do something that could help the people in my life -- and that’s why I became a teacher of Vedic Meditation.
For most of us, the holiday season is a joy-filled time of year, yet it can also be very challenging. We are faced with high levels of demands and expectations as the days continue to grow shorter and colder, our schedules fill up with holiday parties, even trips to visit family, or a vacation somewhere warm to escape the cold of winter. The choice is often to "power through" and we end up missing a very special time of year being over-stressed. Vedic Meditation gives us a way to find balance, inner peace and a profoundly deep level of rest that allows us to enjoy the holiday season and begin the new year grounded, with clarity and grace.
Many of us view the new year as a clean slate, a time to re-prioritize our choices and dedicate ourselves to improving our lives and our relationships with our best intentions at hand.
The challenge is not in the choosing itself--for the most part, we know what we should be doing. Spending time with family and friends, exercising regularly, eating healthy nutritious food, finding time to relax, being patient, kind and compassionate to others. The list goes on. The problem we face is that regardless of our intention, we are destined behave and act according to the baseline level of stress that we've accumulated in our minds and bodies...
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